I do not look to Hollywood to give me character clues.
My white counterparts are always pushing the line, and they are fearless, so why can't I do that, too?
I'm not going to grouse and complain when there's nothing I can do about it. Once you've broken up with somebody, arguing with them is not going to bring them back. You may want to stop their Twitter account or call them up late at night, but they made the decision to leave.
Writing is the most frustrating, but it's something that I've always done.