Give people enough guidance to make the decisions you want them to make. Don't tell them what to do, but encourage them to do what is best.
It took five years to get 'Parental Guidance' made, and it was a fight every second.
Death surrenders us totally to God: it makes us enter into him; we must, in return, surrender ourselves to death with absolute love and self-abandonment since, when death comes, all we can do is to surrender ourselves completely to the domination and guidance of God.