The gospel announces that God doesn't relate to us based on our feats for Jesus, but Jesus' feats for us.
A religious approach to marriage is the idea that if we work hard enough at something, we can earn the acceptance, approval, and life we think we deserve because of our obedient performance.
God has hardwired me to thoroughly enjoy and be sharpened by good and friendly theological discussion about the gospel.
The truth, whether we admit it or not, is that grace scares us to death. It scares us primarily because it wrestles control and manageability out of our hands - introducing chaos and freedom.
Death is the operative device that sets us free in Christ - when we die, we truly live.
Performancism is the mindset that equates our identity and value directly with our performance and accomplishments.
My observation of Christendom is that most of us tend to base our relationship with God on our performance instead of on His grace.