God is a loving god.
When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.
I mean, if you degrade someone, you isolate them, you control them, you call them names, you demean them. That's a horrible existence for people.
Every one of us have things that we believe about ourselves when nobody else is looking, nobody else is listening, nobody else is monitoring what we're doing. We believe things about ourself.
I don't substitute anybody else's judgment for my own.