The highest prize in a world of men is the most beautiful woman available on your arm and living there in her heart loyal to you.
I think it's bad to talk about one's present work, for it spoils something at the root of the creative act. It discharges the tension.
Masculinity is not something given to you, but something you gain. And you gain it by winning small battles with honor.
It's not a good idea to put your wife into a novel; not your latest wife anyway.