Zitat des Tages von Dan Savage:
I own a lot of my house, because I'm Irish and from people who never owned anything.
Mother's Day is a torment if your mother is dead. Valentine's Day is a torment if you don't got one. And at some point in our lives, we will be tormented by Valentine's Day even if we're relatively lucky in love.
Most Americans don't care about gay marriage.
To be gay is nothing to be proud of. It's in how you are gay that you have something to be proud of, considering the obstacles placed in your path if you are gay.
I get letters every year from women who think Valentine's Day is an empty exercise, but are ironically pretty exercised when their boyfriends neglect or forget it.
Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives.
In an open adoption agreement, you agree to a minimum number of visits - a floor, not a ceiling. It's enforceable.
How can you tell somebody whose is pursuing happiness that they're somehow not American when that was the very first promise that America made?
If what you want is a life where your homosexuality is not an issue, move, as many have done.
Preaching to the choir actually arms the choir with arguments and elevates the choir's discourse. There's a reason the right does it and does it well and triumphs.
Women can go on marrying and pretending that their boyfriends and husbands are Mr. Darcy or some RomCom dream man. But where's that going to get 'em? Besides divorce court?
Books are magic: you never know where they're going to end up.
When you're young and queer and closeted, you can end up in this place where you regard your straight peers as the enemy.
A huge part of what animates homophobia among young people is paranoia and fear of their own capacity to be gay themselves.
I wanted to be a priest when I was a kid.
My dad was a homicide cop in the gay neighborhood in the city when gay neighborhoods were desperate, depressing, sad places run by the mob. The only gay people he'd met when I came out to him were corpses.
I wouldn't say that holidays are manufactured by corporations, but they're certainly exploited and mined by them.
A lot of kids are bullied because of their sexual identity or expression. It's often the effeminate boys and the masculine girls, the ones who violate gender norms and expectations, who get bullied.
School is very conformist, and one of the very first conforming that goes on in preschool and kindergarten is gender.
Like it or not children are being raised by gay and lesbian parents all over America - as many as 10 million children. And it does nothing to make their lives more stable and secure to attack their families, to attack their parents to prevent us from marrying each other.
I think the best thing for you to do is just live your life. Live a life that's worth living, one where you do what you want to do, pursue your passions. That way, if you meet someone, they'll be joining a life that's already really good.
I got picked on a lot, even by teachers too. I liked to listen to musicals and bake, and my homeroom teacher found out and mocked me in front of the whole class for baking.
But it doesn't matter what you're doing, it matters how you're doing it.
Christmas can have a real melancholy aspect, 'cause it packages itself as this idea of perfect family cohesion and love, and you're always going to come up short when you measure your personal life against the idealized personal lives that are constantly thrust in our faces, primarily by TV commercials.
A certain tiny percentage of everyone is gay.
The cultural expectation should be if there's infidelity, the marriage is more important than fidelity.
When I was in high school I got involved in the fringe theater scene in Chicago, and I met some openly gay people. I could see that it got better, that they were happy and loved and supported. I saw with my own eyes that it got better.
I believe it's in the best interests of a child to be in a stable environment.
I don't write about my life in my column.
Actual gay people can make many others feel uncomfortable and paranoid because they don't know and can't articulate what makes a person gay, and they worry that maybe they themselves are gay.
It's going to take generations of gay people marrying before these things start to feel natural. We haven't had it long enough to remake it as our own, so it does feel like you're getting dressed up in straight drag to do it.
I think the 'South Park' guys are brilliant.
Men were never expected to be monogamous.
Straight people are everywhere!
There are so many people out there with less shame talking about their problems.
I don't think it's the responsibility of gays and lesbians to reinvent the family.